Nick and I went together to the background appointment at Kids First. Robyn, our therapist, had some great suggestions. After listening to us explain Remie's personality, the situation and the worries/fears/anxieties and behaviours, she helped us break it down. We need to focus on the fears that are driving the behaviour. Sharing more of our fears and acknowledging that we are dealing with the unknown might make her feel better about how she feels. asking her to draw them could make them seem less scary. Laying out a plan for the next 3 weeks, which are likely to be some of the toughest (one of her best friends moves to the UK in 2.5 weeks), might give her some extra support. Relaxing expectations will give her some room. Reassuring her that it will get easier for all of us in a few months might reassure her.
We agreed that next week Remie will meet Robyn and Alex will go the following week. Hopefully this will give them both an outlet and not make Remie feel singled out.
My day was busy so it was good that I felt great (aside from weepy eyes). There were kids' things and a fabulously painful but effective massage, and after school Remie had H over for a play date. Between that play date and the new Loom Bands, she told me I was the best mother ever. How the tides can change. I hit the wall at 8.30p so off to bed I go.
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